The heart wants what the heart wants.
Will Smith needed some help in the love department when it came to dealing with his open marriage to Jada Pinkett Smith, so he enlisted the help of love and intimacy coach Michaela Boehm to fix his little problem.
Boehm spoke to Insider about why couples are urged to cheat on their significant other, days after Smith, 53, told GQ that his biggest fantasy was to have a “harem” of girlfriends that included actress Halle Berry and dancer Misty Copeland.
According to Boehm, people in relationships cheat due to unexplored fantasies.
“In many people, the gap between what’s expected in a committed relationship and what they haven’t explored for themselves creates problems. That’s why so many people get divorced or cheat, or do strange things within the relationship,” Boehm explained.
She also added that visualizing your deepest and darkest desires and fears “allows you to feel how the experience sits in your body, without any real repercussions.”
Will and Jada have been married since 1997 and share two children together. FilmMagicInstead of acting out on the feeling, she tells her clients to picture it. Her aim is to remove the shameful stigma around one’s own fantasies.
“A lot of people just go along for all kinds of reasons. There typically comes a moment where enough growing up or exploration has happened and the life chosen as a late teenager might no longer fit,” Boehm continued.
The “Switch” rapper admitted to GQ in the profile cover story that “the idea of traveling with 20 women that I loved and took care of and all of that, it seemed like a really great idea.”
“What [Boehm] was doing was essentially cleaning out my mind, letting it know it was OK to be me and be who I was,” he said. “It was OK to think Halle is fine. It doesn’t make me a bad person that I’m married and I think Halle is beautiful.”
