The stuff of threadbare sitcom wisecracks became a real-life nightmare for one “nagging” wife.
Nengsy Lim, 45, was facing up to a year in an Indonesian prison when, on Dec. 3, she was acquitted by a Karawang court in West Java of all charges levied by her husband — who accused Lim of badgering him to the degree of domestic psychological abuse.
According to her testimony, the unnamed spouse, a Taiwanese man, was frequently drunk, thus warranting her complaints.
The mother of two, previously called Valencya in the media, collapsed in the courtroom, crying tears of relief upon the ruling.
Lim’s defense credited public fervor on social media with her acquittal, as #savevalencya trended throughout the ordeal, the South China Morning Post reported. Meanwhile, some 7,000 Indonesians signed a petition to see Lim freed of the charges.
“It went viral because of attention from the public,” a spokesperson from the Legal Aid Foundation of the Indonesian Women’s Association for Justice told SCMP. “On this occasion we have the media to thank for raising it in the public consciousness.”
Lim’s ordeal became a glaring example of double standards by Indonesian law enforcement, according to critics, who questioned why the case of a “nagging” wife would be speedily processed while women who accuse their partners of physical and sexual violence frequently complain of a lack of support.
“Indonesia is still a patriarchal society, and domestic violence is often looked at as a private matter,” said Elizabeth Ghozali, a law teacher at Catholic University of St. Thomas in Medan.
“Indonesia’s domestic violence law accommodates victims, but it doesn’t offer as much protection as it could,” Ghozali told SCMP.
In 2004, Indonesia enacted a comprehensive domestic violence law, but justice officials have been slow to prosecute and, furthermore, are known to misinterpret the law.
That was the case for Lim, who told reporters after her hearing, “Without the support of the public, I don’t know what would have happened to me.”
As #savevalencya went viral in Indonesia, the country’s attorney general intervened to overrule the Karawang district court prosecutors, and the chargers were withdrawn. The case concluded earlier this month as expected: with an acquittal.
Legal researcher Ghozali called this a “positive case,” telling SCMP, “What we are seeing is law that is responsive to social needs while retaining the institutionalization results achieved by the rule of law.”
The Indonesian Women’s Association for Justice also urged victims of domestic abuse, and those wrongly accused of it, to heed the media campaign for Lim’s freedom.
“We need people to take their cases forward even if they lose at trial. People need to keep speaking up,” the org said.







