Q I’ve had several rounds of interviews with a few companies. When I ask about the process, they’re vague and say they’re still in the first few rounds or that they’ll be in touch. When is it appropriate to follow up? I called HR at one place two weeks after the first round, and no one got back to me — then I was invited for round two a week later. I don’t want to sound desperate, but neither do I want to act disinterested.

A And you thought dating was difficult! The will-they-or-won’t-they-call business can be nerve-wracking, but whether you’re anxious about a second date or a second interview, desperation doesn’t work. Here’s some advice that will work in matters of amore or lavoro (that’s “work” in Italiano, friends). Be cool but be open. If you’re interested, demonstrate that in interviews and in the thank-you notes you should send to everyone you meet immediately afterward. (And while you’re at it, why not send a text to your date saying thanks for a nice evening?)

Finding the right candidate is not easy, so trust me: If an employer is interested. you’ll know. They won’t leave you in the dark too long for fear of losing you. So be patient. If the feelings are mutual, there will be another dat — er, interview.

Q Can a person get fired for staring?

A Depends on the profession. Boxers rarely get disqualified for staring down their opponent. Staring seems like a job requirement for hypnotists and eye doctors. Vampires have to stare down their victims before they can suck their blood . . . at least I think they do.

However, for the average person, staring often is considered an aggressive act . . . or a romantic advance . . . or just plain weird. Any behavior that makes people feel threatened or uncomfortable, sexually or otherwise, is prohibited in the workplace. So yes, you can be fired.