In case you missed the festivities over the weekend, Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas got married in an elaborate multiday affair in India.
When the duo unexpectedly showed up together at the Met Gala in May 2017, rumors began swirling about how the age-defying couple got together.
Finally, on their wedding weekend, Vogue magazine shared the details regarding how Jonas, 26, and Chopra, 36, began dating and, ultimately, how Jonas proposed:
“Jonas proposed in Crete. As far as Chopra knew, it was to be a birthday trip. Jonas waited until after midnight, so that future engagement anniversaries would not coincide with her birthday celebrations. He had the ring with him, having shut down a Tiffany & Co. in London to pick it out with his brothers a few weeks earlier.”
Wait, what? One more time for the people in the back!
“Jonas waited until after midnight, so that future engagement anniversaries would not coincide with her birthday celebrations.”
You mean he actually thought in advance about waiting until after her birthday so that she wouldn’t have to share the day in the future? This magical restraint is much more thoughtful than a rash of recent high-profile proposals.
For example, at the New York City marathon in November multiple news outlets picked up the, uh, charming (i.e., rude) story of a proposal at Mile 16. Many people on social media had a similar reaction to the scene: RUDE.
Across the pond, they pondered (sorry) is this the “worst proposal ever?”
Sure, we don’t know the specifics behind this particular couple, but, in general, why do so many spotlight-stealing people insist on proposing to their partner while they are in the middle of accomplishing an amazing and, in some cases, incredibly difficult feat? Why not take a page from Jonas and wait?
Thunder-stealing with a proposal is nothing new. Here’s a guy proposing to his girlfriend while she is trying to get over Heartbreak Hill (it’s named that for a reason) at the Boston Marathon in 1998. Le sigh.
If you must propose on marathon day, do it at the finish line! What a photo op! Do it over dinner after the race. (They’ll be hungry.) Or, better yet, do it tomorrow! Propose at a favorite sporting event (I know some people hate this, too, but I digress). Do it at a favorite concert. A Broadway show. The ballet. The beach. There are 365 days in the year, people. It’s OK to make more than one day special.
So please, do not propose while your partner is running a marathon, or in the middle of competing, or getting an award for being an icon a la Rihanna, or graduating, or, you know, when they are ON THE FREAKING PODIUM accepting a medal. (Yeah, yeah, Drake didn’t actually propose, but his thunder-stealing was beyond ridiculous.)
We get it. Proposing is hard. It’s stressful, expensive and nerve-wracking. It’s a decision that will affect the rest of your life. But take into consideration the person you are proposing to. Are you really doing this for them, or are you just stealing their thunder? Why not let them have their day, plus their proposal day?
So bottom line, if you propose at a marathon or graduation or big event, IT SHOULD BE YOUR EVENT. You should be the one running, graduating, accepting an award or winning a medal. Then, if you want to propose, go for it! It’s your big day! It will make it extra special for your partner to know that you chose such a special day in your life to also take the time and expense to plan a proposal. If it’s not your event, though: Just. Don’t. Hard stop.
