Talk about being an open book.
Although polyamorous relationships aren’t as taboo as they once were — one couple revealed the dynamics of their open relationship that has people scratching their heads.
Fernanda Fabian, a relationship coach and host of the Polycurious podcast, revealed that she and her boyfriend, Michael, have an agreement where she is allowed to go out and date other people — while he stays at home.
This couple figured out what works for them. Jam Press/PolycuriousThe couple agreed on this eye-raising setup early on in their relationship, and it seems to work for them, despite some jealous feelings in the beginning.
While it works for the duo now — there were moments in the early stages where Fabian felt guilty about exploring other connections.
“When I started having feelings for other people at first, I felt like I was doing something wrong,” she told NeedToKnow.
“These didn’t impact how I felt about Michael – if anything, I became more appreciative of him. Now, I only feel guilty if I feel like I’ve compromised my relationship for someone else.”
Fabian said it’s taken time for the two of them to feel comfortable with their openness.
“When I started having feelings for other people at first, I felt like I was doing something wrong,” she told NeedToKnow. Jam Press/Polycurious“He doesn’t experience jealousy anymore because he feels secure in our connection.”
Fabian also explained how she makes it a point to show her love and gratitude for her boyfriend.
“Even though he doesn’t ask for it, I constantly express my love and appreciation for him. And I always try to put our relationship first.”
The couple does have some boundaries. “Whenever I go on a date now, we don’t talk about it. Unless I’m struggling with something and need his support,” she told the outlet.
Although Fabian goes out and has her fun — Michael isn’t as keen on following suit.
“A part of me wants him to have that experience because I know how fulfilling it can be and in some ways, even addictive to our relationship,” she expressed.
“I’m pretty sure I would experience some jealousy, though. But those feelings would eventually go – just like they did with him,” she said.
This couple isn’t the only one that thinks fooling around with others is a good thing — another duo believes that becoming swingers saved their relationship.
Jem Jones and her partner Daz started having their fun with other people five years into their “ethical non-monogamy” relationship.
“People class it as cheating and say we are ‘splitting marriages up,'” said Jones.
“People are angry about something they don’t understand. We’re having the best time in our 40s.”







