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Friends that have a platonic partnership together, stay together.

Two Los Angeles women are more tightly knit than ever before since starting their “platonic life partnership” last year.

Describing each other as “soul mates,” 24-year-old best friends April Lee and Renee Wong decided they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together.

They live together, but aren’t lovers — they sleep in separate beds, don’t have sex and can date other people, despite always putting their “unconditional love” first.

“We’ve romanticized the notion that one person could be our everything: our roommate, our financial and emotional support, our co-parenting partner, our best friend — and on top of all of this, they have to also be our lifelong lover. It just doesn’t seem realistic,” Lee wrote in an essay for Refinery29.


  The pair date other people and aren’t romantically linked, but share a “deep love” for each other. Instagram/@aprillexilee The pair date other people and aren’t romantically linked, but share a “deep love” for each other. Instagram/@aprillexilee

Sharing a life with Wong, Lee said, is a “relief,” chalking up their friendship success to not having “the added burden of making each other orgasm.”

The pair have been inseparable since they were young, growing up together through pivotal life moments like “first boyfriends, early career moves and all the growing pains of becoming young adults.”

But after spending much of lockdown on FaceTime together — while Lee was in LA and Wong was back home in Singapore — they knew something was special.

“On our calls, Renee and I were never just ‘catching up.’ Instead, we actively helped each other heal, learn and grow,” Lee said. “We saw how the separate roads we’d taken were now ready to intertwine and grow tenfold. We could suddenly see a future together. More than that, we wanted it — now.”

For a year while Wong was still in school in Singapore, the best friends had “practical discussions” about finances, personal boundaries and how to deal with conflicts, which they dubbed as the “negotiation stage.”

When they finally reunited in LA, they knew it was meant to be as they watched their relationship blossom as friends.


  The besties now live in LA and are “building a future” together. Instagram/@aprillexilee The besties now live in LA and are “building a future” together. Instagram/@aprillexilee

They aspired to “build a future” together by pushing each other to “become the best version of themselves.”

But it wasn’t until Lee stumbled upon an article online about platonic female friends who married one another in the 1800s with zero romantic interest — only the goal of pursuing careers sans the confinement of romance.

“This concept resonated with Renee and me immediately,” Lee said. “We both had aspirations and selfish desires we’d yet to fulfill, and to factor in a romantic partner in our life decisions would mean compromising on those dreams.”


  They landed on the term “platonic life partners” because “best friends” just wasn’t good enough. Instagram/@aprillexilee They landed on the term “platonic life partners” because “best friends” just wasn’t good enough. Instagram/@aprillexilee

Their newfound approach “shattered their preconceived notions” about marriage and partnership.

“It raised the ceiling on the future we were envisioning together, revealing to us a more attractive third option: building a life with your best friend,” Lee said.

They settled on the term “platonic life partners” after coming to the conclusion they wanted to spend their lives together forever.

“In a way, [the term platonic life partners] felt more formal and intentional than the ‘best friend’ label seems to denote,” Lee said. “We didn’t have a label for what we were quite yet.”

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