The wife of slay-suicide cop Sean Armstead was spotted outside their upstate home Tuesday — the first time she has been publicly seen since her husband killed her young alleged lover and then himself over the weekend.

Alexandra Vanderheyden, 35, appeared disheveled as she lugged what appeared to be a blanket and a blue garbage bag outside the Port Jervis home.

She had allegedly been with her 20-year-old boyfriend Edward Wilkins at a hotel Sunday before her jealous NYPD officer husband tracked them down and fatally shot him. The off-duty cop then turned the gun on himself.


  Alexandra Vanderheyden was seen in public for the first time since her NYPD cop husband killed her alleged lover and himself. Kevin C. Downs for New York Post Alexandra Vanderheyden was seen in public for the first time since her NYPD cop husband killed her alleged lover and himself. Kevin C. Downs for New York Post

  Alexandra Vanderheyden appeared disheveled outside her Port Jervis home. Kevin C. Downs for New York Post Alexandra Vanderheyden appeared disheveled outside her Port Jervis home. Kevin C. Downs for New York Post

  Alexandra Vanderheyden was allegedly with Edward Wilkins in a hotel Sunday before her husband, Sean Armstead, found and killed her lover and himself. Facebook/alexandravanderheyden Alexandra Vanderheyden was allegedly with Edward Wilkins in a hotel Sunday before her husband, Sean Armstead, found and killed her lover and himself. Facebook/alexandravanderheyden

  Edward Wilkins worked for Vanderheyden’s dog-walking business.
 Edward Wilkins worked for Vanderheyden’s dog-walking business.

Armstead, a veteran Bronx police officer, had called in sick from his midnight shift and trailed the pair to a La Quinta Inn in upstate Wallkill.

Sources said Wilkins met Vanderheyden when he took a job as a dog-walker at the older woman’s dog-grooming business.

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